Tuesday, October 26, 2004

Thorny Paths and Bitter Fruit


Behold, I am againt you, O proud one, declares the Lord god of hosts,
for your day has come, the time when I will punish you.
The proud one shall stumble and fall,... (Jeremiah 50:31)


God eventually and inevitably works against those who are proud. Our pride does not always bring immediate consequences. But, the day will come when we discover the fruit of our pride. How terrible it is when we find ourselves struggling against God. It is much better to have our prideful attitudes revealed as early as possible and to repent of them as soon as they are brought to light. Sadly, the proud man is tempted to exalt himself above God and to refuse to repent.

Some external symptoms of pride can be rolling eyeballs, hateful looks, bitter words, gossip, complaining, deception and laziness. The sluggard is filled with pride because he is wiser in his own eyes than seven who can answer sensibly. When we find that we have not done what we should have, the temptation is to make excuses instead of humbling ourselves.

It is extremely painful for any of us to have our nose thrust into our pride and to see it in all its reality. But, if I don't recognize my pride then I may be the only one who doesn't. My wife and children have helped me to perceive some of my pride. When this happens the temptation is to deny reality, to make excuses and to build the walls of pride yet higher. And yet, the fruit of pride is dreadful. May God preserve each of us from the thorny paths, self deceptions and bitter fruit of pride.

Project:
Let's fully trust God and pray that He will do whatever is necessary to move us from pride to humility.

Remember:
The Lord is just in all His ways and kind in all His doings. (Ps 145:17)

Monday, October 25, 2004

Test Your Own Level of Wisdom

Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes?
There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 26:12)


As mentioned in John Siburt’s sermon yesterday, the “Pharisee” in each of us tends to make checklist like the one that follows into a black and white test. Am I wise in my own eyes? Is so-and-so wise in his own eyes? But, in reality, we trust our personal wisdom differently as we face decisions in varying areas. For some decisions, we are open to the counsel of others; but for other decisions we have made up our mind and neither heaven nor hell will change it. As you read through these questions, ask God to reveal areas where He wants you to have less wisdom in your own eyes. Ask God to give you His evaluation of you on each question.

Do I actually admit to myself a need to change in some area?

Do these questions make me feel defensive?

Would others say that I am willing to admit a mistake or failure?

Do I usually have an excuse for why I don’t make changes?

Do I sincerely consider the opinions of those who disagree with me?

Do I genuinely listen to, understand or get advice from my wife (or husband)?

Do I tend to immediately defend myself whenever I feel criticized (especially by those who know me the most)?

Do I understand my children’s perspective?

Do I seek the counsel of my adult children?

Do I give my opinion more weight than other’s experience?

Do I seek the counsel of my parents (in spite of how messed up their own lives may be)?

Do I personally seek guidance in God’s Word?

Do I avoid or seek sermons, Bible classes, seminars and retreats?

Do I usually listen to a lesson or sermon with an attitude of asking how I personally should change?

Do I normally listen to a sermon looking for ways to criticize it?

Do others (especially those closest to me) say that I am quick to ask forgiveness?

Do I praise myself?

Am I basically wise?

Project: Let's beg for God’s grace to sincerely desire and diligently seek His wisdom.

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Thursday, October 21, 2004

Blindingly Rich

But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction…. But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness. (1 Timothy 6:9,11)

We are surrounded with advertisements for ways to get rich. But, how often do we see an advertisement for a way to grow in godliness or steadfastness. What God says to flee most of the world is pursuing and what He says to pursue most of the world ignores. I’ve sometimes been guilty of the wrong goals and priorities and the older I get the more value I see in the things that last forever. Interestingly, Jesus said that if we would make building God’s Kingdom our top priority then all our needs would be provided. One of the places to build His Kingdom is in our own soul. We hear of “spiritual disciplines” and they don’t sound very exciting. But, they are ways to pursue faith, love and godliness. Perhaps they don’t excite us like they should because we don’t see the genuine value in righteousness, steadfastness and faith. Our eyes have been blinded and our desires dulled by the glitter of worldly riches which are ultimately worthless.

Project: (Join me in this prayer today)

  • Let’s beg God to heal our eyes and awaken desires for genuine, everlasting riches.

Wednesday, October 20, 2004

Promotion

Luke 3:22 -- "Thou art my beloved Son; in thee I am well pleased."

Dear Son,

You are frequently in our prayers. Even your younger brothers often pray for you. Last week, I was feeling burdened by a challenge I was facing at work. I had two weeks to finish a project and was having difficulty making any progress. So, I sat in a chair in the middle and every one gathered around and prayed for me. Somehow, God got me past those obstacles. But, now I am facing another hurtle with less time. I'm praying for God's guidance and inspiration and, later this morning, I will again ask for everyone here to pray for me. Prayer has been key for your Mom and I over the past 35 years. And, it is the basis of any truly successful life. So, sincerely seek God's strength in prayer to get over the obstacles in your way. Pray for your teammates and ask for their prayers. This is a great time to learn to seek Christ's strength for life.

Even as you begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel, the effort required may seem daunting. But, just like climbing a mountain, the final few hundred feet can be both the most challenging and the the most exhilarating. As you reach the top of this mountain, we will be there to cheer. It looks like much of your family is aiming to come to your promotion ceremony. So, be a leader in seeking God's strength (He's got plenty for you), in manifesting Christ's attitude (loving, cheering and serving) and in overcoming the lies of the enemy (darkness, defeat and death). We're looking forward to seeing you soon.

I love you,
-- Dad

Heavenly Promotion:
And God shall wipe away all tears from their eys; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. .... He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son. (Rev 21:4,7)

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Sunday, October 17, 2004

Un-Commonsense


Jesus said to them, “Is this not the reason you are mistaken, that you do not understand the Scriptures or the power of God? (Mark 12:24)

One of the greatest temptations we each face is to live a sensible life. The problem with a life based on commonsense is that it is based on common wisdom and will give the common results. The broad road is populated by masses of people living according to common sense. In contrast, the ways of God are uncommon, unpopular and upside down from the ways of the world. My natural desire is to live a life based on what I can see and count; a life dependent as little as possible on God’s power, provision and protection. Yet, God has said that, “without faith, it is impossible to please God.”

Our temptation is to depend on our bank account or our credit line more than we trust in God. One of the founders of a large multi-national corporation said that his goal was to die broke. To move in that direction, he gave away large sums of money. But, this attitude is unusual because most men work hard so that, no matter how long they live, they can be sure of a comfortable lifestyle. A rich man naturally sees his wealth as a high wall. In contrast, a poor man will often be rich in faith.

A successful missionary once said, “Attempt great things for God and expect great things of God.” But, the inner whisper we hear says, “Watch out! You’ll be embarrassed if you depend on God to provide.” Instead of risking that God will fail us, we end up being embarrassed by trusting what we can see and failing to truly step out in faith. Too often, my faith has only extended as far as the bank because of either debt and its demands or because of trust in some tiny amount of worldly riches. Christians are called to an exciting life of pilgrimage, ministry and radical dependence on God. But, because of our all too common ignorance of God, His Ways and His Word, we lack faith and make the mistake of rejecting uncommon sense and thus fail to experience an uncommon life personally and in the life of our churches.

Project:

  • Commit to daily getting to know God better.
  • Ask for His grace to attempt great things for Him.
  • Do you feel God possibly calling you in some challenging direction?
  • Evaluate where you are putting your faith.
  • How can you take some small step in the direction of a more radical response to God's call?
  • Take that step.

Friday, October 15, 2004

Recently Adopted Son

Stand and speak...all that I command you to speak. It may be they will listen, and every one turn from his evil way, that I may relent of the disaster that I intend to do to them because of their evil deeds. (Jeremiah 26:2,3)

Do you feel like giving up? Jeremiah was ready to give up. But, God is eager to bless if only His people will listen and turn toward Him. God allows His servants to suffer in the hope that others will listen and turn from seeking "their own way". Even Jesus, His own Son was sent and allowed to suffer torture and death. Yet, it is hard for any one of us to genuinely hear and actually change our mind. When I look back and see where I had times of change of mind, they often involved years of closed ears before a point of effective action was reached. I appreciate those (especially my bride) who did not and do not give up on me.

It is not often that we associate ourselves with those who do “evil deeds”. Yet, Jesus warned that even those who preach or heal the sick in His name may be rejected because He does not know them. Proverbs warns that even compassion is cruel if a man’s heart is wrong (Proverbs 12:10). In the book of John, Jesus warned that all our deeds are futile unless we are connected to the True Vine. The temptation is to think, “My life is not bad. I do good things.” But, unless we are tuned into the Lover of our Soul, it is all waste and ultimately accomplishes evil.

The foundation of salvation is relationship. We are called to a relationship with God which is closer than the best marriage relationship and He constantly calls us closer to Him. This world is so noisy that His voice is often drowned out. But, if we have His Spirit in us, we will eventually hear the Father calling to each of us, his adopted son. An active, living relationship with Jesus will be reflected in our actions but our actions do not make up for a missing relationship. One reason the good deeds of the wicked are hated by God is that they are the self deceptions of a man that God wants as a son. Those “good deeds” keep the wandering man from hearing the truth and sincerely admitting his need to himself and to God. We can not please God without faith in Him, and faith is impossible without His Spirit in us to help us to know Him. The seal of our salvation is the Spirit of Christ living in us making us a true son or daughter of the Creator. Acting as a recently adopted son, let's each seek to actually hear, deeply know and fully obey our new Father.

Project:

  • Ask God how to draw closer to Him.
  • Add to your life scheduled times and planned ways of seeking a deeper relationship with God.
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Saturday, October 09, 2004

Incredible Heights

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3:19)

God has convicted me that I am being harsh when I get irritated, impatient and uncommunicative. This happens any time I communicate an attitude of “Hurry up and say what you have to say because I don’t feel like talking!” This verse reveals that harshness is one of the primary ways that husbands communicate a lack of love.

For me, and for many husbands, to love should mean to sincerely, patiently listen and to speak openly of inner struggles. But, our natural tendency is to gradually gravitate toward a relationship of roommates sleeping together. In contrast, marriage is designed to be intimate spiritual, emotional and physical communion. Marriage should be an illustration of the most intimate, romantic and complete communion. But, the reality is: I don’t enjoy revealing my weaknesses, struggles or even my dreams. I’ve often been a slow to learn about genuine communion.

>From my perspective, our marriage has always been a good marriage. But, somehow, it keeps getting better. One of God’s graces in our marriage has been the ways in which He has led us to learn about communication. I’m not sure even our parents have understood why we have taken advantage of so many opportunities to go to marriage seminars. They didn’t need even one. They may have wondered if we were having marriage problems. I have yet to attend a marriage seminar where we didn’t end up with better communication and a better marriage.

At the beginning of our marriage, I was very weak in the communication department. But, God has worked to gradually educate me in how to actually love my bride. I’ve needed books, videos, seminars and practice to reach the point where I can at least stumble along. I don’t recall going to a seminar that, ahead of time, I thought I needed. Yet, by the end of each seminar, I was thankful for God leading us to the experience.

The danger comes when we accept where we are and fail to keep growing. We know that exercise is important to maintaining our physical strength, flexibility and health. When we stop challenging our muscles, they begin to shrink. In addition, it takes extra work to push past plateaus. Let’s find or make an opportunity to challenge ourselves on communion in our marriage. Most of us are at a plateau. Let’s push on because incredible heights of love lie ahead.

Project: (You mean -- Actually do something?)
· Search for a Christ-centered marriage seminar and take time off with your bride.
· Begin a new communication project to daily listen and speak love.
· Commit to an annual time to grow in love through genuine communication.
· Here are a couple of seminars to consider:
The DNA of Relationships (http://www.dnaofrelationships.com/conferences/ )
Marriage Enrichment Conference (http://dallas.iblp.org/couples.htm )
· We also have a couple of video seminars available. Contact us if you’re interested in details.
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* (If you're single, find a seminar to help you grow closer to the Lover of your soul.)

Friday, October 08, 2004

A Giant Flashing Arrow

A Giant Flashing Arrow

For the shepherds are stupid and do not inquire of the Lord; therefore they have not prospered, and all their flock is scattered. (Jeremiah 10:21)

Looking back as a father, I can see many times when I did not inquire of the Lord as I should have. Too many times, I allowed myself to be pushed along by circumstances, fear or anger. A father, husband, wife or mother could compare to others and say, “I’ve sought the Lord more than some.” Yet, it does no actual good to compare to others. The reality is that many of us have not reached or even begun to see God’s vision for our individual life, our family or congregation.

When we’re young or inexperienced, the natural tendency is to think we have all the wisdom we need. It is easy to judge our elders, parents or grandparents and to think we could have done better. This attitude leads God to let each of us to be measured by our own standard and also keeps us depending on self instead of inquiring of the Lord. Each of us knows whether the Lord’s will is our real goal, desire or thirst. Our genuine thirst is revealed by where we search for answers. One’s personal prayer life is an indication of whether he is inquiring of the Lord. As I’ve grown older, been through more experiences and seen possibilities evaporate, I begin to realize my lack of wisdom in, too often, not taking time to inquire of the Lord before acting.

The flock was not only the shepherd’s responsibility but also his source of blessing. The effect we have on others such as our friends, neighbors, children or congregation results in a scattering, gathering or leading of the flock. When we are pushed along by fearful, angry or bitter feelings, the result will be to scatter and separate rather than to gather and protect. In contrast, our passionate feelings can become a signal for us to inquire of the Lord so we can be effective shepherds who manifest Christ’s response, character, and wisdom. If we raise up Christ, He will draw all men to Himself.

What was your response the last time you remember becoming angry or fearful? Did you immediately seek and inquire of the Lord what to do or say? Or, did you immediately take some action that you now regret? If any of us responded wrong, all is not lost. Even now, if we turn and inquire of the Lord, He will lead us into paths of healing, reconciliation and hope. Today is the first day of the rest of each of our lives. Let’s make it a day of change. Sincerely plead with God for grace to use passion as a giant flashing arrow to direct in a new way where we each inquire of the Lord before acting or speaking.
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Monday, October 04, 2004

Pigs or Warriors

Pigs or Warriors

My son, eat honey, for it is good, and the drippings of the honeycomb are sweet to your taste. Know that wisdom is such to your soul; if you find it, there will be a future, and your hope will not be cut off. (Proverbs 24:13-14)

Over twenty years ago, we felt led to make a scary decision. It was scary because we knew that our resources were inadequate. At that time, there were very few who would agree with us in this decision. Yet, it seemed like God was leading us to educate our children at home. Now, over twenty years later, the resources are almost overwhelming. But, when we started this project, there were less than a handful of companies producing books and curriculum suitable for use at home. My bride always wants to do her best so it was especially scary for her since much of the day to day responsibility fell on her. Instead of letting fear control or paralyze her, she sought strength, guidance and courage from the Rock of Ages.

This decision to teach our children at home did not occur over a few days, weeks or even months. We had an interest in Christian education which had led us to be involved in helping start a Christian Montessori preschool in Dallas. Later, after we moved out to the country, Ouida operated a preschool in our home involving our neighbors. There were four or five mothers teaching various subjects and learning to use Montessori resources with their children. Finally, we decided to try to start a Christian school. We advertised in many of the local papers but we were contacted by only one other family. Finally, we came to believe that God was leading us to start a Christian school just involving our own children.

With just a few months left in the school year, I took our oldest son out of fifth grade. The next year, our second son started fourth grade at home and, since then, the rest of our children have been educated at home. Our goal was not primarily to teach knowledge but to give our children honey for their souls – wisdom. Knowledge is important. But, if wisdom is lacking, it is like a gold ring in the snout of a pig. Contrast this pig with a man who has not only knowledge but also wisdom. He is like a strong warrior who knows how to use his weapons. Higher education can be helpful but what has a man gained if he gets knowledge in exchange for his soul. It is surprising to some people that, even in knowledge, home is sometimes better. One child was struggling with reading and math in public school and was close to failing. But with daily focused attention at home, we found the specific gaps in his knowledge and he began to blossom.

In the book, “Curdie and the Princess”, George McDonald wrote of Curdie, a young man who had the gift to discern a man’s character when he felt the man’s hand. Curdie could feel the paw, hand or hoof of the animal that the man’s soul was becoming. One man’s hand felt like a snake, another like a pig’s hoof and one like the paw of a wolf. Whether we use home education, private tutors, Christian schools or public schools, we want to recognize that, as parents, we have primary responsibility for our child's education. Even if we set the goal of producing a warrior, a pig may result. But, what if we don’t even have the right goal? What are we personally becoming? And, what are we helping our children and grandchildren to become – pigs or warriors?

Project:
  • Ask God to give you, your children and your grandchildren a hunger for honey of the soul.
  • Sincerely seek God's direction and He will give guidance (don't set up any "Off Limits" signs for God).
  • Daily take time to personally find honey for your soul.
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